Ellie, hey there! Ya know, you and I think so much alike.
For one thing, it's pretty much my sentiment exactly- xh hardly spends any time w d15. So the time at her games- let it be her time, for crying out loud! It's the only parental "involvement" he has- watching her from the stands. Why can't that just be about her? I mean she wanted to change schools and leave her childhood home to get away... And he wants to follow her with crazy. Ugh...
Honestly, I don't think xh wants to bring the baby (if only to rub it in my face), but more so, I don't think hww likes him away without her control. That's her best attempt to have control. Plus, she can't trust him.
And the marriage, psh... Whatever. I get the life I deserve, and they get the life they deserve. Yeah, if it weren't for another round of child support, I can't imagine that really happening. And like I said- she's been pushing for that ring since he was married to me. She's in her late 20s now. Two kids w two different dads and never married. And live a superficial, phony life. Of course she wants that. Family has to fit the frame.
Bf is amazing. I have become very independent. And it's hard to let my guard down, but we are all good.
As far as your ex... I bet you are right... These things will start to increase the age-gap, I'm sure. It's nice you have such empathy. I wonder how the physical changes will go over with him. It may make him have to face some tough things... Or tailspin with some mental chaos.
Heck, maybe he will have an awakening!
More importantly... I feel ya... Sooooo grateful we don't have to deal with the negative, critical, angry, nonsense anymore. The ultimate blessing!
Now, on another note... My cousin, who has been mentioned on here since my first post, who has been, many time called, superman. The fighter of fighters... Has lost his last battle tonight.
Such a great man, he was. I'm sad.
But thank you, Ellie. Always a straight-shooter, and always so spot on... And have stood by me throughly this journey. See... Some of us are standers in other ways! And arguably in better ways!
