They push buttons hoping for a snarky "bitter" response which makes them feel less guilty about their abHORREnt behavior. If you put your such snarky response in writing they can read it again and again or show it to others as justification for their behavior.
It's just a passive aggressive defense mechanism.
It soothes her mind that even though she feels guilty for not recovering that it never would have worked anyway because you'd have remained a bitter angry betrayed husband indefinitely and there was no way she could live under your angry bitter thumb.
It's one of the reasons you don't interact with a wayward wife through and after divorce if you are truly done. Parallel parenting.
One good thing about moving is you'll have your son's undivided attention when he comes to visit.
Take care.
The internet is 90% complaining and entitlement and I hate it because I deserve better!
