Hey Cali, hope all is going well. Update when you can.
I had missed this Fogg, sorry ... does seem for me the updates are few and far between mostly just due to the fact MLC crazy is just that and I admittedly have developed some thick skin & boundaries where I do not allow much to get in anymore, There are some things going on I thought I would "Captain-Log" in if you will, just to keep a timeline in place and update some events that I feel warrant it, only time will tell if anything comes out of it.
Ok so on the MLCr front. For those not aware her Childhood trauma occurred when she was 14 from what I can gather sometime in November. During our 26 (wow almost to the day on the 10th) years November was always a trying month which I chalked up to the Holiday-Blues thing.... she would often pick a fight or attempt a break up over the years, turns out there was trauma and the root of all this activity only took 25 years to learn this. So the TM activity has been picking up lately mostly concerning S9, either school, custody, wanting to swap days, scheduling holidays etc (But often things that do not warrant a TM). I have kept replies very short ... but not afraid of calling BS on her proposed Holiday Schedule Proposal which was nothing short of selfish on her part. I did sacrifice Halloween which was my night and let her take him that night in an effort to even the 'un-fairness that I have had him most Holidays this year',I was not invited and did not receive even a pic of him in his costume ... I did however get asked to pay for half of the costume she bought .... though I have yet to see it (She has also not received $$ for this nor am I inclined to do so). So one new thing is the passing of her grandmother which was this morning. Not a shock as its been something the family has been preparing for, this woman almost made it to 101. MLCr texted me Saturday asking if I would take S so she could say her goodbyes, which I gladly did (bonus S time) ... she wanted to swap Sunday for Sunday, however I have fought long and hard to eliminate the split weekends and am cynical of her pulling anything to change the current set up, so I offered Sunday for Tuesday instead telling her I made plans for he and I this coming weekend which she accepted. I imagine these plans may be all for not given the funeral but we will see what happens there.
I am not sure what if anything this loss will do, I found myself thinking about it ... if she lives to 100 (seems women on her side live forever and a day) our S would be 64 and most likely as the only child held responsible for her, just a random "WTF poor kid" thought. I question if this makes her think about her current life and the choices she has made ... was nothing more than a shrug type thought and something I will guard against as this time of year she has in the past pointed out what a mess her life is.
I have yet to hear anything on the D front after I sent in the paperwork, nor am I really anxious about it .. it happens when/if it happens. I have been window shopping for Condos, I may even move into a bigger place when my current lease is up and start acquiring furniture I had long since lost in the split with the thought I will have to furnish the condo I purchase in 2018 (Long term Goal #1 at the moment)
Other than that I have been very busy with work and GALs. I have a pretty good routine however Softball is over till Feb. As I mentioned I was dating a bit over the summer but as of now I am just not there, no time and no interest really for whatever reason. So I am back to just me and GALs... I think I am just waiting to see where Gods wind blows me and trying to be quiet enough to read the signs and continue on my path. I have been reading a bit more and attempting to improve in some key personal areas .... day by day hoping to be better than the last accepting it took 40 some years to get 'this' way and allowing myself time to get to my goal.
