I totally, 1000%, agree with your "lecture" to the newer LBSs here. I thought the same thing you did about the gift of time. But Cadet is right on the money. The inner growth I've gained is extraordinary.
As for your h's recent antics ... it has been my experience that when I am happy and satisfied with the way I'm navigating through my life, my h will try to throw a monkey wrench into things. I realized that a while ago. It seemed like every time a reached a point of feeling like I have a handle on all this, he'd do or say something that would take me 2 or 3 steps back.
You seemed to have a reached a point that you can go about your business and not let it get under your skin (or at least that he sees). I think he'll give up trying to provoke you eventually. I think they need to figure out that they can't "get to you" anymore. In the meantime, stay strong!
{{{Hugs}}} 2T
Me: 59 and holding H: :53 Me: 1 S, 1 D, both grown M: 19 T: 23 BD: 9-23-2013