New to the Boards. Marriage in Crisis.

[DonH]

Chris, I don't want to scare you but I do want to prepare you. This is exactly what happened to me and in many ways was one of the worst days of my life - June, 2005. Like you, at first I was excited we were going to counseling. Then a few hours prior it dawned on me that my W might use the safety and support of C to ask for D. She did. It was surreal. I'm a pilot and the C's office was near the airport where I kept my plane, yet I could not find my way out of the parking lot and to the Interstate! That's how incapacitated I was.

I don't want to go into any more about me. What I simply want to do is let you know to prepare just in case this happens. Hope for the best but plan for the worst. If it does, you'll handle it better. It also doesn't mean it's over. Remember, believe nothing they say and only half of what they do. Just don't get blindsided. If you prepare this in your mind and plan your reaction you'll get through it much better than if it's a complete shock.

Let's hope we are both wrong. Either way, it really just is the start of all of this. If she says she wants to save the M or D it all can change the next day. Let us know how it goes and many here will listen and help.