Westo - I thought I'd just pop around and say "Hi" and thanks for visiting my thread. If my Canadian accent is confusing I can try to gargle marbles so that I sound Welsh wink I actually have a couple of Welsh friends in my village who are very nice people and manage the Queen's English quite well.

From the tone of your posts it sounds like you are doing well on the "positive mental attitude" part. I'm envious of you being a Gran. I can't persuade D24 and her husband to do me a similar honour. It would appear that you haven't let your H's earlier comments bring you down. Be proud of who and what you are.

Sadly it sounds like your H has indeed read the MLC script down to the re-writing of history and making poor choices in an attempt to re-invent himself.

Are you able to get out and about in your community and keep busy? Living in a small village myself I know that almost everything is run by women like you who get involved. Figuring out some sort of independent income stream for yourself is probably a good idea too. Perhaps look beyond the word "job" and think about who you are and what you are good at. Is there a need perhaps for someone to provide informal day-care?

There is no way to know for sure where your H is going on his own journey. I certainly get that you care deeply for him and are worried about him. I have similar feelings and worries for my own W. It took me a (very) long time to understand that there is in all honesty nothing that I can do to help her. I can hurt her yes, but am completely unable to guide or assist her at all in any way. And knowing that hurt me a lot.

Anyway - I must go for now. I'll stop by later and visit again. You are among friends here.

Thanks.

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T27, M26
S21, D23
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I am a storyteller. The story may do you no good.
But a story is never for the listener. It is always for the one who tells