New to the Boards. Marriage in Crisis.

[Chris73]

Today is our first session with a MC and I'm ABSOLUTELY TERRIFIED!

I have been holding it together really well since last week when my W told me that she's considering separation. But this morning was really tough.

My son is going through some emotions since he started at a new school this year (he's in 3rd grade, new friends, etc.) and his sadness this morning really got to me. I broke down in front of my W. There was no stopping it. The stress of all the work and worry that I'm contributing to this marriage reached a tipping point. I was hoping to wait until I was alone to break down but it didn't happen.

I have a suspicion that my W is going to use our first MC session to come clean and announce that she wants a separation and would like to use these MC sessions to discuss how we can proceed as amicably as possible and with the least amount of stress for the kids.

Meanwhile, I'm hoping that this first session will allow us to begin the dialog of working towards reconciliation. I know the DB techniques emphasize staying positive and detaching, but I kinda think the MC sessions are where the barriers should be broken down and both people speak freely.

If anyone has any advice for me I'd really appreciate it. I will post again after the session with a rundown of how it went.

Pray for me.