Your W seems relatively open to working on things,maybe not over eager but still willing. She answered your questions. She talked about it. Then she took LL test again with you. Ye ML recently.

There are other indications in your posts, but all of that is positive and IMO gives ye a decent chance at turning your situation around. This may take a long time yet so patience is key.

Now in the meantime you need to really focus on you. How many of those horseman traits do you have today? What do you need to do to eliminate all 6 negative comportements mentioned above.

I think it is great that she took the LL test with you. Use those results to improve YOU. I would not over do lying as it really is manipulation. Plus if she is borderline committed she may feel too pressured.And pressure is your enemy here.

I will reread your situation and follow your posts and in time I will offer my opinion again. In the meantime, what are your goals going forward? R goals but especially YOU goals.

Best wishes

R 25 years
M 14 years
S11 & S13
Working on it alone since Oct 2014
M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years)
Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr.
Next R chat Aug'17
Still together