I disagree, Esame. I still need the rubberband, LOL!
So, weird weekend. I've kept pretty busy with events, activities and school. But here are some bits that had me thinking of H again (my rebound time is shorter now).
Ran a 5k with one of his assistants and one of my new friends who is in his same profession. We didn't talk about him, but his assistant was very happy to see me (and I, her). We had a nice time joking the whole way and met up with her sister and mom afterward to catch up. A very nice time on a beautiful fall day, all in all.
Today his other assistant came over to pick up a painting of her children she had commissioned me to do for her H's anniversary present. We talked for a few hours and she told me my D was in our newspaper (I haven't gotten my final papers yet), so its official now. She told me XH is very depressed and feels like he has failed...that selling the house really hit him hard. I must be a bit evil, because my inner response is "good! I hope it hurts like h$ll!". She gave me other details about him, his actions, what he has been up to, but it just seems almost like I'm hearing stories of an old highschool friend I lost touch with many years ago. I don't really know him anymore...especially since there were some lies and secrets involved that blurred my image of what I thought was real.
In a text convo with D26 and her SIL's inlaws, I found that both my D's and I will be at SIL's for Thanksgiving. It is assumed that H will not be going. How sad is that? I know he is going to visit his parents in December, so I can only guess he'll do Thanksgiving where he did it last year...with Bubbles and her family. His family will be together celebrating without him. His loss. I had fun last year, even during the lowest time I went through. It should be lovely this year. D26 said "its just Thanksgiving. He'll probably do Christmas with us, though." I hope he doesn't disappoint her. I'm learning he's in his own sad but selfish little world. Not my problem. Not my H anymore. Maybe someday he'll realize he had choices in these situations, and that he didn't choose his own family. I wonder how long the girls will put up with it?
M-51 H-54 2D-27 and 25 M-26 yrs Bombshell and IHS 7-29-15 He moved out 10-3-15 D filed 1-27-16 D final 10-27-16
