I'll be honest it sounds like you are convincing yourself everything is going awesome and i hope it does/will. What i dont hear is concrete actions. A lot of analysis on your part and observing and mind reading.

Did you try for an MC/IC as the others have suggested.

Me31 W31 M11yrs S6yrs
23Mar16-BD
9Apr16-W admitted EA w boss.
27Jun16-W Changed job and promised NC w OM.
14Jul16-Continued contact w OM.Start of Separation.
24May17-Divorced.