A review of finding out about A and telling W

[Steady9]

Certainly it is frustrating to realize she was detached but kept it to herself.... There are somethings she said that I have thought about that I can do better. Be more patient with my son and be more present. I have started doing better three months ago after I felt she started the A while on the first trip. And I will continue.

I do think it is more planned, i told her today that the exchange of texts with someone she did not know since the 8th grade, got more serious leading to June trip and then you saw him for coffee and then saw him for sex. And you never told me. This was planned. I know it is not about this guy and only about my W. (guy was a loser, ugh )

I am focusing on changing my emotional response and not using the word "should"... although it is hard. I did proactively try to do the right things over the past few months to win her back... and it worked so far... so trying to feel good about that and not a victim.