A review of finding out about A and telling W

[Steady9]

sandi--she has a hard time coming up with words... but she said she was detached from me.... I asked her if she thought I knew that... and she said no, she keeps things to herself. She hugged me less. She became detached from me as a slow process over the past year or so. I talked about changing jobs, she was not seeing her family enough, I was happy at work and then not happy at work, etc..... I suggested to her that I was stupid for not seeing it... and she let me off the hook by saying she kept it inside.

She said that she had made up her own mind during her recent trip back home. She was going to get closer to me when she got back, and I just sped things along by letter her know I knew about A and I was ready to let her go.

I feel as though some of the other reasons were, she did not think anyone would know, she felt valued by helping this guy by listening to him complain about his situation and she was bored.... These are my words.

Today she seems to realize that she owns those feelings that led to detachment and she should have spoke up. That is part of the letter she sent to me. My W historically keeps things to herself and tries to work them out. She is immature that she does not want to appear weak.... so she does some immature behaviors to appear tough, like keep things inside. She appears to be maturing on this front over the past weeks.