JR I get it brother. At some point you just seem to hit a wall. You've been fighting the good fight and have been at it much longer than I have. I'm exhausted, so I can only imagine how you are feeling. it seems like taking a more detached view of things can only help. If nothing else it is something different and different things will happen. Getting out of the "routine" your in can only be a good thing.
The planning recently has really helped me find some peace. Knowing that I'll be ready and ok no matter what happens takes a load off. I want to be in a good stable place so that my D has stability in the future. You seem to be moving towards the same and for that I applaud you amigo!
Please do let us keep helping where we can. We all care about you brother and want to know you're good!
Me39 M11 : T13 D9 BD 5/31/16 In House S until 6/21/17 Divorced 10/5/18