Cherry. He's gone, and divorce is looking

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Consistency yes. Doing what works and not doing what doesn't. Not giving them bullets to fire for spew and propoganda campaigns.

The fog will go Cherry. They can't function properly with the fog. The think I think is different is putting the past behind us to move forward. Healing only comes when they can confess their wrongs, seek forgiveness and make changes to work together. Both parties need to do this. However, my WW is so stubborn that she can never do this. Ultimately she will not miss me unless I do some massive 180's. Strict NC. No kindness. Get a D going. Date others etc Problem is she has finances for 18mths or so. But pushing for a D is obviously the opposite of LL work. She is clearly still resentful so I wonder if Sandi's way is best. No LL etc.?

Tricky times....but I am very happy being on my own for now.

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