Try Not to Think Too Far Ahead

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Kyh,
I'm sure that you and the kids had a great time at the Halloween party. You actually stepped outside of your comfort zone for the party.

I think you did the right thing by helping your w w/the car. After all, the safety of not only your w, but your children should come first when it involves a safe car to ride in.

I'm sorry to hear about your FIL and I hope everything goes well w/his surgery. I do want to point out that MLCers can't deal w/health issues of others or even death of others. It reminds them of mortality and they try not to be around when someone is ill or they try to convince themselves and others tha the health issue is nothing and it will go away. They just can't handle it. So, I do understand why your wife may be feeling a bit off.

Also, the Halloween has kicked off the holiday season. She may be feeling a bit guilty for not being there for those special holidays and they are reminders of happier times for her and right now, she can't deal w/the guilt of leaving her family. Some come closer during the holidays and others stay away and find excuses not to be around.

I'm not surprised she can't sleep. It's part of the depression, but it also the time when everything is quiet and her mind is working over time and she's thinking about everything she's doing and the guilt creeps in. There are no distractions at night, so her mind continues to run at full speed.

I think you are doing great. Keep up the good work!