Focus on Me and the Boys 9

[PsySara]

Honestly I think I would have lost my $hit as well. She has re-written history without any accountability.

However.

You totally gave her control by rising to her bait. You pursued her during the convo and she ran, ran, ran. The problem with telling a WAS/WS your feelings while they're in the fog is they will simply mentally manipulate your words to re-inforce their false beliefs about you. I did this so many times and it resulted in extreme pain for me. WH would tell me how I was responsible for his going outside our marriage, this is utterly untrue but my emotional spewing just made him double down in his fog.

So Jim, no more talks about M, about R, about anything but the kids. Down load the Talking parents software, it's free and keeps everything on a record. If you X has internet access then she can use this. So we know what doesn't work, huh? Let's keep looking for what works, for now it has to be parallel parenting.