Lou - in my own (very mild) depression I was repulsed by my h. One day, literally, out of the blue, I looked over at him and once again thought he was very attractive. Had he changed? Absolutely not. My depression was lifting. To this day I have no idea why I found him unattractive.

I agree that it hinges on him and his ability to work through his depression.

Me 41, H 47, M 15 yrs, S11, S13
BD 1: 11/4/14 we work on it; really I pretzel myself
BD 2: 3/31/15 H goes down to "dorm room"
8/15: H back to MBR
10/15: H back in dorm room
1/18: H files, now divorced