To confront or not confront cheating W?

[Steady9]

I talk a little on this topic on my posts... My situation was different, but what i did what talk about letting my wife go and realizing that people are free to make their own choices even if they are married. I told my W in a very calm way that I could tell we were not as close and that I did not own her and I could let her go and be free to make her own choices and I would make mine of course.... something like that. I said this over a couple of days as we talked. Over the days, she started to realize I must know something.... or I was really noticing that we had drifted apart. The fact that I was ready to separate (I did not mention D, just let her go...) or just how in the towel impacted her to start having discussions. After a week (which is fast) I could tell that she wanted to work on the R, and I simply asked her to write down what would be important to her if we just met and we were starting new..... A few days after that I let he know I knew about A... In my situations, I think she was going to end it anyway.... (so case by case, and others on here have more experience than me....) But I can tell you my posture, words, delivery were extremely calm but very serious and she knew I was.... Luckily so far for me... she wants to stay with me....