A review of finding out about A and telling W

[Steady9]

My W has been supportive and nice for most of our 15 years. I was recently divorced with two young kids when we met, 17 years ago. She helped me with my other two kids and supported me as I got used to seeing them less over the years. My job has me moved us around, and she has been supportive in the moving to different states. She has a BS degree and we met at work but since then ( she was 28 or so) has not worked and been a stay at home mom raising our two kids who are now 14 and 12. She has been great. She has pride in the way our house and cars look. She even takes care of the lawn and pool.
We never yell at each other. But i have been disrespectful more than I realized. I have said, "idiots" under my breath or in another room, and my W had heard me....I think these types of things got in the way and we were not mature enough to talk about it over the past year and it just wore on her. We or I always felt we had the best marriage of the people we know....We are friendly, fun, have sex regularly.... but the past year has been off...Although I was late noticing it.

About a year or maybe even longer, I can now see that we were not as close. She might say small disrespectful things and also I learned recently that she was unhappy with the way I was supporting my son. We still were having sex on a regular basis. I have learned some over the recent talks we have had. Even today we read through "Rebuilding your marriage after infidelity 101" on the goasksuzie website together. And talked about how we can discuss and take action on these ideas. She is very willing to do and just happy I am giving her a second chance. Today she said, "I am asking you to help me or support me during this time and I know I did a very bad thing..." but hoping that all the years of supporting me would be enough for me to give her this second chance. And by talking I could see there were some behaviors on my side that caused her to drift away, although she says she never stopped loving me ... even over the past few months....