Chapter 4 - Acting As If

[bigybiz]

Today's question.

Since W has moved out, I've been mom and dad. I've been taking care of the boys, running the house, etc. To be honest, although it's tiring, I'm enjoying it.

When it hit me. MWD says that relationship are see/saws. Since I'm doing everything and I don't consult her for any decision.

I don't want the hassle of getting her involved and I certainly have taken over everything she used to do - Halloween costumes, computer set up, etc.

Here is the question. Am I letting her off the hook?

Am I as much an enabler as the friends that are telling her she deserves better and her kids will be OK and she gave up 15+ years of her life for her family and it's her turn now?