Hi Coly, yes that's right. OW was transatlantic at that time. We had S a few months earlier.....so this was around the time I joined this site.

To me, he was saying he was confused and unsure. But to our mutual friend, he said the R/M was over. She couldn't bear the fact I didn't know this and told me so in a really painful convo. After that, I asked her to not let XH know she had done that - to tell him she had tried and I just said - I'm sure if he has something important to tell me, he will do that.

In actual fact, he never did really tell me things were over until the following March, when he decided to file for D. Our mutual friend remains pretty upset that 'he put her through that' and says 'he's not the man I thought he was' - called him spineless.

Any ways...I also had my hair done today. I hope yours looks lovely and you enjoy your new look. Just on that message from your H - have no expectations and leave it to him to initiate if he does want to meet up. If you do meet up, maybe keep it shortish and have somewhere else to be after that...

If he doesn't come back to you, I wouldn't contact him and ask him if he still wants to meet - just leave him to it unless he initiates would be my view.

Have a lovely weekend! Xx

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus