Cherry, when your H shows sign of softening, and when it seems a reasonable time to reach out, do something for him. Maybe your meals for him?

If his LL is acts of service, he feels loved when you do things for him. Thanking him works as words of affirmation, which doesn't seem to be his LL. You should of course still affirm him, but if his main LL is AOS, you will also have to look into doing things for him.

You can call me Dory/ Grl.

As a wise fish once sang,"Just keep swimming!"

It's no use to go back to yesterday because I was a different person then.