She doesn't spend time with our son. It feels she has grouped us together as the "stress" in her life that she doesn't want to be around or deal with. Every weekend is calculated to the point she shares the two of us as little as possible.
I don't mind the "tough love" here but I do need help on successful boundaries to set. I have NOT told her how I feel and your right - I should start there. But they are also just words.
My obsession with confrontation is that the secret of the A I am holding is driving me crazy to be honest with you - and stopping me from at least getting everything out in the open. No matter where it leads. I feel every day is a mind game because we are both living a lie - she with the affair and me with the secret of knowing. I can't imagine this is positive!
