Newby here, desperate for some advice (thread 6)

[JRuss]

I can see that. But I suspect by the time I'm separated physically (whenever that happens), I'm gone and done, no matter what she does or says. BBQing on my green egg, enjoying a new life with the kids (when I get to see them) and not being totally obsessed with all of this like I have been for almost 2 years now.

She is a difficult person, no doubt. Unable to share her feelings and needs in anything approaching real time, then harboring grudges and resentment because her mind wasn't read. That was the supposed promise in my eyes of MC -- get to work on these communication and other issues, but it takes two to tango.