You envoke many good points and surely valid ones. Without judgement I hear bitterness in your posts. I am sorry your W treated you that way and she appears to have a better deal than you.OOnly time will tell which of you fares out the best. I wish you luck.
R 25 years M 14 years S11 & S13 Working on it alone since Oct 2014 M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years) Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr. Next R chat Aug'17 Still together