Still hanging on ... just

[JRuss]

Detachment is the hardest part I've found. It is a state of mind, not a set of physical actions or happenings. It takes a lot of time and effort and consistent actions on your part.

So start with the actions first, because you can control those. Pull back physically: don't follow her around, don't ask for cuddles, don't initiate physical interactions, quit looking at her trying to deduce her moods by what her face or body language looks like, do your own things out of the home without inviting her; and pull back verbally: no asking about her day, no asking about her plans, no chit-chat, above all else, no R talk.

See how that goes. Don't try to solve the entire detachment riddle at once. Small but consistent steps will be the best thing, I think.