Thanks Si, Whilst I hope that my efforts have an effect on my W, these efforts are being made for me and my S. I need to drop weight and want to do this so that I can have a long life to watch my S grow. I hope that this will also have an impact on my confidence which in turn will bring a new lease of life.
I understand that changes made for her will not stick and would be made for the wrong reasons.
M - 36 / W - 32 S - 3 Together - 18 Yrs / Married - 10 Yrs Bomb Dropped - 4th Sept 2016 Moved out - 4th Sept 2016
Goals are yet to be set as I need some significant time to work on these. I've got a few ideas, but want to ensure that they are realistic, and what I actually want (I'm unsure as to what I want at the moment and how to figure this out).
M - 36 / W - 32 S - 3 Together - 18 Yrs / Married - 10 Yrs Bomb Dropped - 4th Sept 2016 Moved out - 4th Sept 2016
Thats just it, I am such a family man that I cant see anything other than a family. I dont want to jump into another relationship without being over my W, but am just useless on my own.
I think there is some soul searching that needs to be done!
M - 36 / W - 32 S - 3 Together - 18 Yrs / Married - 10 Yrs Bomb Dropped - 4th Sept 2016 Moved out - 4th Sept 2016
Still lots of silence from the W. Going Dark appears to be having no effect at all. Whats the best thing to do - continue and wait or well I dont know what alternatives I have.
I am wondering if there will ever be any change to the sitch and wonder if any efforts are worth while.
I'm trying to get on with my life and am keeping myself busy but it all seems so fruitless!
M - 36 / W - 32 S - 3 Together - 18 Yrs / Married - 10 Yrs Bomb Dropped - 4th Sept 2016 Moved out - 4th Sept 2016
I think you're right, there are only two alternatives, moving on or not moving on.
I see no other alternative than to just move forward, continue doing what I'm doing and hope that it makes a difference to her. What other tactics could be deployed here?...
Again, working on a new me for ME (but also hope that it may change how she feels - if not hopefully I'll be in a better place anyway).
M - 36 / W - 32 S - 3 Together - 18 Yrs / Married - 10 Yrs Bomb Dropped - 4th Sept 2016 Moved out - 4th Sept 2016
Still lots of silence from the W. Going Dark appears to be having no effect at all. Whats the best thing to do - continue and wait or well I dont know what alternatives I have.
1) How do you know theres no effect? 2) What is your proposal for an alternative?
Originally Posted By: RBG80
I am wondering if there will ever be any change to the sitch and wonder if any efforts are worth while. I'm trying to get on with my life and am keeping myself busy but it all seems so fruitless!
1) Maybe there will be a change. Maybe not. In my opinion, Id live your life as if she was not going to change her mind. 2) What do you mean by 'worthwhile' and 'fruitless'? It doesnt sound like you think this is for YOU.
It sounds like you are frustrated and impatient. What is your plan to deal with those things in a positive manner?
