I totally get what FG is saying. When I read others' situations here, it's frequently very clear to me what the poster needs to do or at least what (s)he should do to maximize the chance of coming through things in the best shape possible. So I find myself posting, trying to help, etc.

That sort of clarity eludes me in my own situation. My situation? It's like being swamped by a hurricane, while others' situations are like watching news coverage of the hurricane from my living room in another city.

Me: 46
W: 44
Married: 17
Together 21
D13; S10
BD: 03.03.15 (Not attracted to you)
Almost 2 years trying, alone, to save marriage
Status now: Divorced (effective 06.13.17)