Hey Dfresh, I want you to keep in mind that she still had an affair. Meaning that no matter what happens there is a lot of work to be done if your marriage is to be saved. Just because she and OM are on the outs does not mean that the work doesn't need to be done. It actually means there is more to it now. One thing you do not want to establish with her is that it is okay to do what she did and that you will be right there waiting when she ends it. DB is about correcting what led to the EA/PA as much as it is about dealing with the hurt. You have to figure out how come your marriage allowed for such behavior and why it was even a thought to be unfaithful.
For now, focus on yourself and finding your center. Again, get back to who you were and what makes you tick. In the end you will either be a better man on your own, or a better man in a marriage because you have gotten yourself better/healthier.
