Court date set, still holding on (csabo part 2)

[j20a00g]

Well, if you read the whole post, no not really. I don't want to go on a date with him because I want to comfort him for having a bad date, I just was remarking it might be a more pronounced good date with me because of the bad date. The reason I want to go out with him is because he's my husband and I love him. Sorry, it's not a magic button I can just turn off. If I could, I probably wouldn't be on this forum wanting to save my marriage. And I only said part of me wants to go with him.

What I actually suggested I actually do is see it without him and not even talk to him about it. I actually said that twice.

I appreciate what you're trying to say, but honestly I felt a bit... demonized for having conflicting thoughts and feelings about someone who 5 months ago was the love of my life and 4 months ago betrayed that love and trust. It's rough. It's a rollercoaster.

Sorry if I made you feel demonized. Not the intention. As I stated before, time is not really on your side. As many on here say, you do do what feels right/good or you can do what works. I'm not so sue you are onboard with the process and I can't encourage you enough to sit and read and implement the lat resort technique. It's imperative that you toughen up. Not a single one of us on this site aren't here because we haven't either lost or are afraid of losing "the love of our life". While your situation may be unique to you and your social circle, it's not here. We are all in a similar situation and trying to help everyone else not survive but thrive.

You may not always like the advice or the input from me or anyone else on here but, you will always get honest advice or input.

Trust the process. You really need to be 100% bought in like yesterday if you want a shot. Time to start using the head more than the heart. It won't be easy but it will be worth it.