Me and my 2 daughters

[Irish M]

Hi Everyone.Job, Cali, Sotto and Mirage.. you are all so amazing. Thanks for your support. Today i really needed it. What i thought was a simple 2-3 texts from XW turned into a whole day of texts

So I get the typical ones like:
"you never loved me"
"Why didn't you fight for me"
"I miss the girls so much"
"Why didn't the kids fight for me to stay"
"We were clearly not meant to be together"
"I see you have a friend on Facebook that you went out to diner with, a woman friend, how could you move on, clearly didn't love me".

I don't respond to these at all or I just reply "ok".

I now get the:
"how could you do this"
"you turned the girls against me"
"They should meet OM so they can get to know him".

That I had to reply to. I tell her: OM is a huge part of the girls not wanting to reach out to you. It's been 15 months you haven't seen the girls or really reached out to them. Today, you go on and on about you missing them. Sure fine you miss them. That doesn't erase the fact that you neglected them to be with OM. They won't just forget what you did with time. If you feel you need to be forgiven then you should go to church."

She replies. " Irish, it's been over a year. Get over it. The girls won't get over it because of your ego. Its not all about you"

Then she switches gears and says:
"We should of talked more when we argued. ( which was rare but it happened). If we argued, I know I held things in or wanted only to talk about it later, next day etc., you were always talking about it right away, before we go to bed. I felt pressure"

then she says the crazies of crazy:
"You really lost your love for me just before I moved out and you found out that I had a boyfriend. You see you cant get over that. That's why I left"

she continues:
"We should really talk on the phone. Texting it is so long."

I reply: You have my number you texted it all day. It does work as a phone as well. I actually have nothing to say to you after all that you said. I clearly see it's me to blame for everything and you did and continue to do nothing wrong."

She gets of topic "You should tell the girls to call me or email me. You are a bad father. Ruining their lives. I am done with you if you don't... BYE"

I tell her:
"Do me a favor, message the girls yourself. Be sure to include some of this crazy because I am tired of being the middle man."

"What are their emails?" she says

I'm reply in shock at this point "wow, don't tell me you deleted their emails. They are the same as they always were. Their names mixed with last names and year of birth. You did email them around March giving them SHAT about forgetting your birthday"

I texted her the email addresses around 5pm. She replied with a gentle "thanks "

If the girls do get a message I will know about it sadly. It creates such stress in the house. So far all is peaceful. I will let the girls know a little about my day. I don't keep much from them these days because one day, when they do connect with her, I don't want to hear from anybody that i kept stuff from them. They are old enough to make their own decisions. I just don't want them going-in blind.

huge headache .. going to bed zzzzzzzz