So I'm at a point where I've given in to my wife's demand to start mediation. She doesn't want to work on things and frankly I'm already exhausted with her crap. I've been DBing but she's made up her mind and she's not budging. Let me correct that: she's not allowing herself to budge. She seemed a bit surprised when I threw in the towel but as someone on this board said "her circus, her monkeys".
I'm being respectful and cordial with her. We really only communicate when there's something to discuss about our daughter. We've gone the counseling together and it has helped me understand how we got to this point. Essentially my wife was bitching to her therapist about me instead of talking to me about our issues. In that time she moved closer and closer to ending the marriage while I was kept in the dark about it. Finally she just decided that she was done much to my surprise.
So my question is do I continue to DBing? I love my wife and I don't want a divorce but she is lost right now. It's like she someone else. I don't see that changing while we're under the same roof. I don't expect her to move until the new year. I'm kind of at a loss of what to do. We have to co-exist and co-parent so I don't want my daughter to see me as being a jerk to her mom but I certainly don't want to help her divorce me. I feel like I'm caught in the middle.
