Well, I don't know your W, of course. It just seems to me you are looking at sex as a way to connect.......which I believe is natural for men. However, for a woman, sex would be more like a response or the result of emotionally connecting. For her, making love not only fills some of her needs, it is kind of like celebrating something good......like being in love. Maybe that's why she needs foreplay, to get into the mood to celebrate. Seriously, I think that's why some women don't desire sex if they feel angry or distant with the H. He wants to have sex to make up. She wants to make up and then have sex.
Where you may see it as a way of mending the R, she may want the R mended......and then make love.
Anyway, just my thoughts. I hope you won't take chances with your health.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
