Hi Focus, it's difficult I know. Over the past 2 plus years, I have talked to a few friends and family about what happened. Occasionally someone will be neutral enough to say they respect whatever you choose to do. But generally people have strong views.

Ones expressed to me have been - he'd cheat again you know! You could never trust him now. Surely you don't see any mileage in the marriage now?

I learned not to have these kinds of convos with people. The fact is, they haven't walked in your shoes and it is up to you what you want to do. Yes, they have their views on things, and that is up to them. If they start telling you things you don't want to hear, you can let them know, or just close down the convo and move on to something else.

I can see in your posts, it's a hard time for you. Do remember to keep making plans and goals for yourself. Your H will do what he will do, and who knows how things will unfold for him. But how things unfold for you is significantly within your span of control...

Take care Focus :-) x

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
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D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus