So is her feeling correct? Does she have any say in the finances? How do you guys communicate on money issues?
This looks like a similar pattern to my marriage. My ex would spend money on something I thought was unnecessary and Id be grumpy about it. All it did was lead to hurt and resentment on both sides as we never communicated clearly about budgets and plans.
She has her own credit cards that she pulls money from the main account to pay, and she has a joint credit card. She also has an ATM card, so she has access to the money.
But, she's talking like she wants to buy a house. She's talked to realtors, and I know she's looked online at houses. I told her she should look to rent 1st, then, when she knows her financial situation, buy a house, but she doesn't want to move twice, and she believe the money she'll get from D will help her (I did a good job saving money, so she'll get a good bit, although a lot of it is in IRA and 401K).
I make the money, and she spends it, that's how it works. Now, that sounds like I'm bitter, but I'm really not. She does like to shop, but she doesn't buy expensive items. I rarely get onto her about how much she spends, outside of a few months when it was really high. However, the maids thing is more about principles than money.
M 40 W 40 S 2.5 Together 13 years Married 11 years BD: 09/23/16 PA, then long Distance EA confirmed 9/30/16 Exposed A to OM's W 10/7/16 A ended 10/10/16
