A review of finding out about A and telling W

[sandi2]

I think you both need to attend therapy to heal after an A. To be your own doctor could be risky. The more you occasionally ask her a question about A/OM, the more she will become agitated and will resent you. You deserve to have your questions answered, and she will oblige for awhile, but then will become touchy about it and want you to just get over it. It needs to be discussed, but you need a professional to guide. She may not know exactly how to answer some of your answers. The professional will know how to ask the right questions, and hopefully, your W won't retain resentment. There needs to be healing, or the MR just has a scab over the wound.

It does appear she is going faster than most, but it doesn't mean she's not sincere in wanting to save the M. Something may have happened that got her eyes opened. If she's not sincere, it will show soon enough. However, the A was not her root problem, and if the root is not treated, it will sprout again. That is why you need MC to work through these issues while she is willing to save the M.