The last few days have been, again, different. A few days ago, I was watching the news in the living room. H told S11 that they were going to continue working on this essay. Every once in a while h initiates some academic pursuit with s11 and this is one of those tasks. H asked s11 where he wanted to work. I said "let me get out of your way so the tv is not distracting you." H said "no, stay" in a very kind tone. This was a first in a lonnng while. But I politely declined. He again insisted I not leave. I told him I have enforced a no tv while doing academic work rule (sad that this is news to him when he LIVES with them!!!) and I did want to finish the news program elsewhere.
Over the weekend he found this box of extension cords and made a big show of it. He told me how much money he was saving by finding this?!? I joked: "and how much do you think you can sell it for?" But then I thought, I wonder if he is in his past somewhere as he did grow up quite poor. So I said: "that's great! Those will come in handy at XMAS and we won't have to buy more." He, like a little kid said: "I KNOW! That's what I thought." He seemed hurt that I initially teased him. I told him good job. (I do think that may have been the little boy.)
Halloween we ended up driving together to go meet S11 at a friend's house. We always take separate cars if the kids aren't with us. This time, I waited longer to leave just to see what he would do. As he was leaving he asked if we were riding together. I said probably not as I was bringing the dog. (The day before the dog had just thrown up in h's precious car! Now the dog is not allowed in there.) So as I was taking the dog I was also taking my car and h avoids my car like the plague. But he said let's ride together. We didn't talk for most of the ride. Then he brought up something to do with the stock market. We small talked. It was like hitching a ride with a co-worker.
This morning he sent me a text. I was waiting for the craziness to start. He told me something was wrong with his phone and if I had sent him something between midnight and then, it would not have been received and so I should re-send it. Ummm. Hmm. I was going to make a joke, but there's no point. Humor is lost on him. So I just said "ok" a few hours later when I saw it.
Of course, this was all moot as I never sent anything in the first place.
Me 41, H 47, M 15 yrs, S11, S13 BD 1: 11/4/14 we work on it; really I pretzel myself BD 2: 3/31/15 H goes down to "dorm room" 8/15: H back to MBR 10/15: H back in dorm room 1/18: H files, now divorced
