Newby here, desperate for some advice (thread 5)

[JRuss]

Thanks Gump and mules. I appreciate the support.

Gump -- you and I came here around the same time with remarkably similar situations, what I've always felt were shared core values with respect to fighting for our marriage and our children, and it looks like we've both sort of hit the same impervious wall at roughly the same time. I hope better days are in store for both of us, again on similar (hoping its fast) timing.

mules -- yes, I think looking forward with emotions other than fear and dread is definitely possible. A new house I own by myself, not decorated by my W, that I make into a great place for two kids -- not all bad when I think about it. My W doesn't eat beef or pork, so guess what I've eaten almost none of for 20 years? Some major menu changes coming. Yeah, no -- that's definitely my goal to start accepting what's coming and refocusing my efforts toward creating my and our new existence. Execution of that goal will be difficult, I'm sure. I'm still in-home separated, which is just a really difficult way to live if detachment is your goal, so I anticipate some backsliding. Who knows how it will all shake out, but we will see.