Lou - coming in late on this conversation, but through all of this, just make sure that all that he has said does not taint your view of yourself.

Clearly, he still hasn't learned what love is.

Me 41, H 47, M 15 yrs, S11, S13
BD 1: 11/4/14 we work on it; really I pretzel myself
BD 2: 3/31/15 H goes down to "dorm room"
8/15: H back to MBR
10/15: H back in dorm room
1/18: H files, now divorced