where to begin or end?

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Alright after a week of reading the newcomer stuff i think im ready to post. Divorce Remedy is on its way.

Backstory- Met my future wife in highschool as a coworker @15. Took 18 months for us to begin dating. Great couple, 5 years in she has an EA with a coworker that strained our relationship until it died. We rekindled but i guess never tackled underlying issues, a year later our daughter is born, then marriage 2 yrs after that, then a son a year or so later. 12 yrs together, D6, married 5, S3.

End of 2015 W finds a job after 3yrs of in home childcare. She oddly spent first month of 2016 trying to meet my sexual needs. For which i didnt not give the responses she had hoped for, so that died down, things kinda go into a funk for next 6 months until i discover yet another EA with a coworker during a family trip. I have a blowup unsure if i could go through that again, even questioned a PA. She denied, few days later after she got fired, rumor gets to me about getting caught at work. I confront her she finally admits a PA of about 3 months. Next few days are spent blameshifting me, her not sure about us, me being an emotional blob, she then decides shes no longer in love with me, hangs around a few more weeks until moving into our camper at her mothers. I read about exposure and i did. She says she wants D but hasnt filed, wants us to figure it out before hand, i refuse to file or cooperate.

Wife has now been pushing OM onto her family and my kids now and hints to her unwilling parents about him staying their.

So now she quit our small talk if i wont discuss divorce. So i went dark 5 days ago. No more nice gestures toward her, no more good mornings/goodnights or ILY. No more texting her. As i went dark i started reading sandis threads. And here i am.. Looking for advice and willing to answer any questions about my stitch as you guys need.

Thank you guys