wife is going through withdrawal

[MJTT]

Sandi you are spot on with your post. I now realize that I've been trying to get sex from her to seal the deal. Our sex life before the A was good (at least 3 times a week). We have been together 11 years and married 5 years. We also have a 4 year old daughter that we both love very much.

Prior to this she was vicious towards me and was defensive about the OM. Here is what I did to get to where we are today:

1)Exposed the affair
2)Told her I didn't want to be with her anymore
3)Told her I would never speak to her unless it was about our daughter
4)Made her realize that she would spend less time with our daughter as a result of divorce

I'm just now trying to figure out how to proceed with the recovery because I want to make sure that we truly recover from this and make our marriage stronger. We have talked about our shortcomings and where we failed in our marriage. I have started to work on those issues but sometimes I feel as though she is not putting a lot of effort into it. Maybe it's because she's still withdrawing from the A (A ended 2 weeks ago)?