wife is going through withdrawal

[MJTT]

I suggest you keep reading and learning but in a nut shell,
after OM withdrawal, should be followed by depression, and
then another phase of withdrawal(mostly from the whole world).

There are no simple fixes here,
think of her like trying to feed a squirrel.

Hold out your hand with food but
no sudden movements towards her or away.

BE STILL.

I sometimes feel like I'm doing the heavy lifting right now even though she was the one that had the affair. Is it normal for her to not want to even kiss or be affectionate during this period? It's so hard because I never know what to expect from her. One day she is hot and the next cold. Reading the Pursuit and Chaser thread has definitely helped me.