The way I look at it is this crisis will last a certain length of time. The more time that passes the less that remains. It is a simplistic version of my thinking but helps to keep going. Then the stubborn side of me says i have gone through too much for too long to walk away now. I could list umpteen thought patterns that I use to motivate me to keep standing but essentially each of us has to find our own reasons.
That motivation wanes but focusing on the positive and appreciating those goes a long way.My situation is more bareable than many here, yet harder in other ways. I am okay with my situation for now and I don't see my W leaving in the near future. That being said either of us could reach breaking point tomorrow. Que sera sera. Whatever will be will be.
Anyway I just wanted to say I appreciated you reading my thread and stating you found inspiration here. In life, in sport and in general we are all capable of much more than we imagine and likewise we can endure what we previously would have said impossible.
My advice to you, others and myself would be that during this crisisthere are three main aims to work through. First SURVIVE it, then LIVE through it and ultimately THRIVE.
Best wishes
R 25 years M 14 years S11 & S13 Working on it alone since Oct 2014 M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years) Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr. Next R chat Aug'17 Still together
