Thanks guys. I think the silence of NC has helped lower my expectations. I don't really see him coming back from this. Which I guess , that protects me a little from building expectations. I haven't seen or heard from him in like a week. But when I did see him I was cheery and friendly. Meanwhile I'm just focussing on me and getting me good and friendly. I make sure when I see people, I'm upbeat, I chat to people, hold my head up. I've had numerous reports from people that he appears very distressed/not himself, standards of work slipping (very unlike him, he is extremely professional). I don't badmouth him, I don't wish for him to fail in things, I really don't. This may be chaos that he brought on, but he's clearly a distressed individual. And I do still love him, that I know. But I have had to let him go, and lovingly leave him to it.
Me 26 H 25 M 4 T 5 Baby born 4/14 BD: 1/15 EA: 2/15 PA: 4/15 reconciling: 4/15 ILYBINILWY- 11/15 ILY-1/16 ILYBNILWY 4/16 ILY 6/16 ILYBINILWY 6/16 Baby due 3/17 BD 8/16