She's gone. Living in the now.

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Well done with the race Scrant, and nice to get a congratulatory hug from your S. I do feel it is sad that your W has such limited contact with your S. But I guess she chose her current path and this situation is a product of that.

As for what she may be doing - who knows Scrant. She may still be all loved up in the R with OM, or it may be waning....or whatever....but know this - focus on that is a lose/lose situation for you.

The winning scenario is for you to genuinely rebuild your own life after her departure. To feel happy within yourself and accepting the current situation. That does take time, but it can be done.

If we don't do that, I feel that even if we reconciled we knew we weren't really okay without our spouse and so that worry may always be there. We needed them to complete us. We don't feel whole and healed without them. I do think GAL and truly moving forward with your own plans in whatever form is key to this.

I'll be honest, I'm really not that interested in her and whatever she may be up to. And that's the same for any poster here. I'm a little 'meh' about the spouse who walked away..

However, I'm really interested in you and how you cope, survive, rebuild, thrive at this time in your life. Is it time to set some goals do you think? Goals that are all about you?

:)x