I echo the other posters in the fact that I do not think you were a "fix" for your h. I do think that deep down, he truly loves you and the children. Like all addictions, they are hard to break and it's possible that you've been his crutch that has allowed him to stay afloat and not hit bottom. I know you know this, but I'll say it again...many addicts won't do the hard work until they've lost everything and have hit bottom. I wish that I could offer you additional advice on your situation. I will ask just one question...has he ever considered locating a rehab facility that deals w/his type of addiction? Maybe he needs to be in a structured facility to get the proper help he needs.
I do hope that you enjoy your day at the spa. Relax, enjoy and hopefully recharge your battery today.
Take care.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
