Delighted to see some excitement in your recent posts. Great you can envisage life without W and contemplating a future R with someone else. Life is full of potential and can be as great as you want it to be. Remember that before dwelling on next paragraph.

Your eldest kids are not yet considered old enough to decide where they live. I may be wrong buy in most places custody has to be split. Check out your legal rights. Same thing applies to W automatically keeping youngest.

If I remember right your W won't be able to keep your house . What are her plans? If she has to move out of your area too, she could move towards Devon.

I urge you to really focus on what is best for you and your kids.
Is this it?

Do not be affected by W or her emotions. Even if you reconsider this move, let her stew on it. It is the first time on two years she suffers a negative consequence of her decision. Don't enter into a blame game and definitely don't accept any.

Lastly don't let the recent feedback re-stick you. People are trying to guide you not stop you moving forward.

Best wishes


R 25 years
M 14 years
S11 & S13
Working on it alone since Oct 2014
M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years)
Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr.
Next R chat Aug'17
Still together