Lou, I'm so sorry to read this and I'm sending my warmest hugs to you. ((((( )))))

Job has been around here for a good while and knows what she is talking about. I agree with her posting and I also think it may well have been too soon. He is still dealing with stuff and that stuff gets in the way of feelings for others.

As is often posted on the forum. Actually, you get to decide whether this is the end of the road for you and he. Clearly, things are not going to progress towards reconciliation at this point in time. Going forwards, we just don't know. He is acting from emotion and how he feels right now - scared and worried that he may get stuck with how he felt before - ie: trapped, missing out on 'life' - like many MLCers feel.

I think the usual wisdom applies here - detach, move forward, live your life and give yourself some time to decide whether you want to close the door here.

Do keep posting and let us know how you are doing.

Xxx

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We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus