To get started in GAL, I suggest you get a calendar and begin filling in dates with various activities. This is a time you will be able to do what YOU want to do, and do not need to give an account or check with her. Make the most of this time.
Step out of your comfort zone and open yourself to new opportunities. If you need to make new friends, go where other people will be there. Check your local newspaper or other sources to see what is available in your area. Entertainment, sports, outdoor or indoor activities, museums, historical sites, library, carnival, etc.
There is something else that helps. Giving your time to those who have nobody to help in small ways. If you live in a neighborhood that has elderly people, you could shovel snow off their sidewalk/carport, pick up a prescription, give them a lift to the doctor, or however they may need assistance. Reaching out to others that need a hand, helps you have a sense of purpose and balance during a confused and painful time. It is emotionally rewarding.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
