Thank you Job. I value your posts since they hit the right things at the right times.
Children went to their dad's last weekend and third son crying. XH told him that he will not let him come home regardless of what he said about the boys having choices to come on the visits. HE said that until they are 18 then they must go on the visits because he's their father. So my son said he avoided his dad the entire weekend. L-:(
I received another text from XH (they don't end)
He said that the office of attorney general will be deducting child support from his paycheck. Remember he makes $8 pr hr part-time. And he said that his resources have been exhausted, including his parents, his wife and his old 401K. Of course he didn't mention that he gave up parental rights to other son and doesn't have to pay child support to other child from the ex-mistress. ???HMMM?? I haven't called him out on ANY THING!
Remember last Nov he said his wife would support him if he managed the bar. I asked him about his 401K and he said he'd use it to payoff our student loans (per divorce decree)
One month after this conversation, they opened a convenience store. No mention of the store to me nor if he became her manager/ I thought it was with the 401K money that they opened the store but the business is under her name. He's made sure to let everyone know I(including my son's scbools that these are her businesses and that his employment is at this small retailer. ???
I know he's trying real hard to reduce the support. I'm trying not to freak out. I still have chemo every wk and those bills are mounting. I pay what I can.
The child support pays the mortgage, water and a small amount of the electric bill. Doesn't cover the rest - phones, internet, insurance, food, gas, car maintenance, house maintenance, medical, haircuts, clothing, entertainment, gifts. Expenses add up.
I clip coupons, budget, belong to so many money saving blogs, mystery shopping, websites with codes for free stuff, etc.
PRaying for a good paying job that's flexible for me chemo schedule so that I'll be able to support me and my children regardless of what he pays. Makes me angry that he's pulled this stunt. Even if he doesn't want to do food service- he has a degree, tons of connections and so much experience. And why part=time?
Again, I'm trying to breath and take care of myself for my precious babies. I don't want to stress out. I don't want to stress them out either.
Breathing! Praying for wisdom, discernment, proptection!
In His Love VGE1
Romans 8:28
Ex-mistress clarified that the job he took pays $8 instead of what I guessed at #10. And part time at that. Grrr!
